Sometimes being married to a military spouse is like being married to a celebrity, I do not notice it as much now that we live on a major Army Post, but when my husband was station commander of a small town recruiting station and he along with his one helper where literally the only Army in town, or when we travel now and he is uniform I see it again. I imagine it is the same in areas where National guard units have been activated, or anywhere that you do not see military on a daily basis.
People stop and stare, many will stop and shake his hand, want a picture taken with him or just want to say thank you. I love that he always stops talks to them, and answers their thank yous with the same thing... your welcome I am just doing my job.
We used to get our lunch paid for all over the place by grateful anonymous people, he says he has never paid for coffee in the airport, and we have several thoughtful gifts that people have given him. He had a cute young admirer when we were in Colorado, this young boy (maybe 15 or 16) was mentally challenged, he worked as a bag boy at a local grocery store and anytime my husband would walk in this boy would follow him all over the store, he never said anything he would just watch him, then one day he stopped looked at my husband and saluted him, I will forget how proud I was of my husband as he stopped looked the boy right in the eye and saluted him back, or the look of absolute happiness on the boys face. I am so grateful for the support people show to my husband and our military, even if it means we get our dinner interrupted while someone we do not know wants to stop and say thank you or if we have to stop numerous times as we walk through an airport to shake someones hand. Those moments counter act the bad ones, and as a military spouse unfortunately we see them as well. His government phone used to ring at the same time every week with someone trying to entice him to come down town under the pretense that there were possible recruits he should come talk to, instead it was some locals who did a weekly protest of the war and the military, they would try to get him down there and then yell nasty slurs at him and try to get him to react to them, as he says he's got some pretty tough skin and he did not let it bother him, but it bothered me, he has sacrificed so much to allow these people the rights to feel however they want and they repay him by saying such ugly things to him, it broke my heart.
He had several parents act as if he was going to come steal their children right from their beds and send them off to the Army, and they had no problems telling him how they thought their kids were above military service. And the worst was the elementary school principle who would not allow him to speak to the children, he had gone with me at the request of one of the teachers (who had asked me to bring a Veterans out to talk to the kids on Veterans Day) the vet I had asked fell of a roof and was unable to go, my husband (who at the time was just my friend) stepped in and agreed to go, when we got there and they found out he was a recruiter he was not allowed to speak, they had him lead the kids in the pledge of allegiance but he could not say anything else, he said had it not been for the kids he would have walked out, but instead he lead them in the pledge dressed in his blues with all his ribbons on looking just like the real life hero he is.
Wednesday, January 5, 2011
Molly Pitcher
Last week we attended our second Saint Barbara's Ball, if you do not know (and I did not last year) Saint Barbara is the saint of the field artillery
This was the beginning of the ball with a few of the other wives, the two on either side of me also received the award this year.
a look at what the tables looked like all set up, they did a nice job with the decotations this year.
http://www.landscaper.net/artylgnd.htm#The Legend of Saint Barbara. There are many traditions that come with attending a military ball, I find them all to be interesting and always enjoy attending. This year our guest speaker was a 2star General, he gave an excellent speech one of the best I have heard at this type of event. During the ball military members are inducted into the order of Saint Barbara, they receive a medal and participate in a ceremony. Afterwards some of the wives in the Battalion receive the Molly Pitcher award http://www.landscaper.net/artylgnd.htm#The Story of Molly Pitcher, I was honored this year to be among the wives who received this award, it was really a wonderful surprise to hear I had been chosen.
I have not gotten my other computer up and running to put my pictures from that night in but I was able to "borrow" some from a friend.
Here you can see us getting ready to receive our medals,they are handed out to us by the LT Col and his wife who put them around our necks and them our husbands clasp them on.
This was the beginning of the ball with a few of the other wives, the two on either side of me also received the award this year.
a look at what the tables looked like all set up, they did a nice job with the decotations this year.
Tuesday, January 4, 2011
marriage and the Army
Princess Dianna once said her marriage always had three people in it, I can very much relate to that statement, though in my own case the third person in my marriage is the Army.
As any military spouse can tell you the military takes precedence over everything, what is best for the mission will always come before what may be best for the family. You learn that all plans must be flexible, that at anytime the Army (in my case) can step in and need something, thus changing your plans, a prime example is the upcomming trip home for my Grandmothers 90th birthday, even though my husband has over 70 days of leave and will soon hit the use or loose it point, and we made plans to attend several months ago the company came up on training orders and will be gone for a month right in the middle of the trip, my husband will most likely get to stay back on rear D, but he will still not be eligable to leave the area (though there is a small hope he can get a pass for his days off and fly up for just one day, thank goodness I work for an airline so that is possible) when we found this out I did not even get upset, disappointed yes, upset no, why because I know this is how it goes.
As an Army wife I quickly learned that there will be many times he will not be able to be there. The Army is full of wives who have given birth to babies alone, spent Christmas, anniversaries, birthdays ect alone (or at least without their spouse) we learn to cope, we learn to do things oursleves we never thought we would, and best of all we learn to lean on each other.
As any military spouse can tell you the military takes precedence over everything, what is best for the mission will always come before what may be best for the family. You learn that all plans must be flexible, that at anytime the Army (in my case) can step in and need something, thus changing your plans, a prime example is the upcomming trip home for my Grandmothers 90th birthday, even though my husband has over 70 days of leave and will soon hit the use or loose it point, and we made plans to attend several months ago the company came up on training orders and will be gone for a month right in the middle of the trip, my husband will most likely get to stay back on rear D, but he will still not be eligable to leave the area (though there is a small hope he can get a pass for his days off and fly up for just one day, thank goodness I work for an airline so that is possible) when we found this out I did not even get upset, disappointed yes, upset no, why because I know this is how it goes.
As an Army wife I quickly learned that there will be many times he will not be able to be there. The Army is full of wives who have given birth to babies alone, spent Christmas, anniversaries, birthdays ect alone (or at least without their spouse) we learn to cope, we learn to do things oursleves we never thought we would, and best of all we learn to lean on each other.
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